"There’s this issue you’re not allowed to discuss: that women are needy. Men can go for longer, more happily, without women. That’s the truth. We don’t, as little boys, play at being married - we try to avoid it for as long as possible. Meanwhile women are out there hunting for husbands."
-Steven Moffat [x]
I just want to frame that and hang it on the wall of every Moffat apologist, so they can wake up and look at that every morning.
I hardly see how that’s so controversial and terrible. A biased misconception, maybe. But it’s not horrible.
Most of the girls who I went to school with are already engaged, and some of them have children.
Most of the men I went to school with are probably drunk as shit right now, stumbling back from a bar after trying to get laid.
The average age of marriage for men and women (at least in Ireland) has a 4 year gap - women get married earlier than men their age do.
It’s a fact.
I’ll check the American average; 26 for women, 29 for men.
So 3 years gap as well.
(I’m googling, and on mobile so I can’t link oops, but you can see the results with a quick “average age of marriage [country]”)
Not a big gap, but a gap nonetheless.
I’m seen as weird in my circle of friends because I don’t want children or get married. They are all between the age of 18 and 24, and every single one of them want to get married within the next 3 years.
It’s not controversial. It’s not terrible to say that women are more “needy”, because statistics say that YES! They are more needy for a stable relationship.
It wouldn’t be a problem if it weren’t a pattern.
Because there’s also his comments on why companions are mostly young girls:
Is there going to be a particular age range? I mean … who’s going to have a crush on the Doctor?
…because the main reason they join the Doctor is because of a crush. That’s true. I certainly never thought about how exciting it would be to see other places and times, other planets and cultures. We all know that’s not why Donna Noble stepped into the TARDIS.
Plus there’s his very observant comment on how the Doctor ditched Rose:
“You have to hand it to the Doctor for dumping a slightly needy girlfriend by palming her off on a copy of himself. He tried leaving her in a parallel universe, and that didn’t work.”
And just for shits and giggles, examining how it’s not just comments on women, here’s his convincing argument for why there’s not enough bi-visibility on tv:
“We don’t acknowledge you on television cos you’re having FAR TOO MUCH FUN. You probably don’t even watch cos you’re so BUSY!!”
So the thing is, no, that one comment on its own isn’t controversial. However, the pattern of all his comments should be considered as context.